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Wedding v. Marriage

I’m just wondering when people get married are they really getting married for forever or for an idea? You know, there is a difference between the wedding and the marriage.

Marriage is a great. I’m not married yet, but I’ve seen great marriages. So, I know it can be great. God created marriage, so it has to be something good. But I’m curious as to why people put so much effort into the wedding and hardly any into the marriage.

I’m not saying weddings can’t be fun. And I’m not saying a person shouldn’t be excited about having one. Be happy. You’ve found someone to spend the rest of your life with! It’s great!

But, why is it more important to plan the wedding than it is the marriage? If you’ve been dreaming about the perfect wedding since you were a child, shouldn’t you have spent some time trying to be the “perfect” wife when it’s over.

Although the timing really is unparelleled, just go with me here. If life here is only a glimpse of time compared to eternity, then what is the time of a wedding compared to a marriage that’s meant to last forever? Isn’t only a glimpse as well.

Divorce is too easy an option for us today. I’m not saying that sometimes you don’t need to get out of a marriage. But I am saying that it seems like it might not be worth it to divorce because he doesn’t like to clean up, if divorce wasn’t such an easy scapegoat.

I am no expert in marital affairs. And so I don’t write about marriage as a know-it-all. I write about it because I need the reminders myself. I write because when my marriage isn’t going the way I planned it, I can look back and be held accountable.

As I prepare for my wedding in less than a month, I just want to remind myself and other people in the world to not lost sight of the bigger picture. Weddings are good, but they aren’t marriage. Work towards being happy everyday and not just for that day. For many, the day they get married is the best day of their lives. But don’t let it be the best day of your marriage either.

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