Of all creation, I must say that women have to be the most unique.
It’s amazing the very same nurturing, caretaking beings can still be the most vindictive and conniving ones too. The same being that can express such hurt and pain from a relationship are the same ones that can make a man suffer forever for what he did years ago.
Now, obviously all women aren’t like this. But, a lot of women have paralleled between the two. It’s amazing to me that women can have children with men, and then treat the very men who want to be a part of their child’s life as if they shouldn’t be. Don’t get me wrong, there are a lot of deadbeats out there. Again, don’t get me wrong, he should have married you before he laid up with you. And you should have required him to. But since you didn’t, don’t treat the decent men that do want to be a part of their child’s lives as if it’s inconvenient to you.
Taking a child away from the male presence that he needs is not going to solve your issues. A father wanting to be a part of his child’s life is the least of your worries. The real problem is you not wanting that for your child.
Women… You know, if we required more, if we settled for less, and if we knew our true worth, this conversation wouldn’t even be necessary. But, since so many women don’t know or accept their worth, here we are.
We are here. We are at a place where men look and we gauk. We are at a place where we have daddies but not fathers for little boys. And we are at a place where we have allowed ourselves to be jaded so many times that when men (not boys) do actually want to be present, we punish them.
I know there are men who don’t do right. I get that. I know there are men who really want to. And as a woman, I most certainly know that the men who don’t do right have gotten away with doing so much wrong that it’s natural. I know that the men who do want to do right have been turned away so much that doing wrong is more appealing. And I know that women can have a say in it all. We can choose the good guy for once in life, and together be good people.
Good women don’t settle. Good women don’t punish good men. And good women don’t need to be told any of that.